Lately, I've been doing a lot of talking about this whole body image issue, and it brings up a crazy amount of "stuff" for me. What I mean by "stuff" is thoughts like "do people want to read this?" and "are people sick of me talking about this?" and "does anyone care about this?" etc. So, when I start to have these thoughts (which are all fear-based), a few things really help:
1. Remembering that the world does not revolve around me! I know, it's a shocker!! I'm not sure why it's so hard to remember. When I need to remember this, I re-read the second of the Four Agreements and that usually sets me right.
"Don't Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering." -Don Miguel Ruiz
A shortened version of this quote is "what others think of me is none of my business." It helps to put it in perspective for me. Instead of worrying about the people that may not care about/understand my message, I believe...
2. There's someone out there that needs to hear what I'm saying. If I stay afraid to speak about this issue, than someone out there may feel that they are alone in their struggles. I felt alone for a long time, and it was hard! Sharing my struggle allows me to help others who may feel the same. This quote from Frida Kahlo really sums it up:
"I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought, there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do I would imagine her, and imagine that she must be out there thinking of me too. Well, I hope that if you are out there you read this and know that yes, it’s true I’m here, and I’m just as strange as you."
These two ideas really inspire me to continue on with my quest to spread my message. If you have quotes you use to "stay the course," and silence your inner critic, please share with me!
to get thoughts like these in your inbox, subscribe to my newsletter!